FELLOWSHIP NEWS
AND REPORTS FOR DECEMBER 2025/JANUARY 2026
COMING UP THIS WEEK
Dec. 14-21, 2025
Sunday, Dec. 14:
•Service at 10:30 a.m. in person or on Zoom. Rev. Fred L Hammond delivers a homily titled “Siddhartha: A Man for All Seasons.”
•Congregational Meeting at 11:45 a.m. There will be an informational meeting on financial aspects of stewardship for Manatee Unitarian Universalist Fellowship. We are asking all members to attend in person or online so everyone will have an understanding of the strategy being utilized, the importance of these events for the future of our Fellowship, and ownership of the outcome through our members helping to achieve these goals.
•Special Collection begins today for The Coalition of Immokalee Workers, a worker-based human rights organization internationally recognized for its achievements in fighting human trafficking and gender-based violence at work. Make checks payable to “Coalition of Immokalee Workers” and bring to a service or mail to Manatee UU Fellowship, 322 15th St. W, Bradenton, FL 34205. This collection runs December 14-28.
Tuesday, Dec. 16:
•Connections: A Sharing Hour has its weekly meeting at 11 a.m. Facilitated by Alia Starkweather. All are welcome.
Wednesday, Dec. 17:
•Worship Team meets at noon on Zoom.
•Board Meeting at 6:30 p.m. with Zoom option.
Thursday, Dec. 18:
•Joyful Jammers meets every Thursday from 10 a.m. to noon. Anyone who plays an instrument or sings is welcome to join in the fun! Contact Peggy Dickson for more info.
Friday, Dec. 19:
•Share-A-Dish potluck supper at 6 p.m. Our Joyful Jammers will entertain with holiday music. Sign-up sheet in the social room.
COMING SOON
•Dec. 24: Annual Christmas Eve service at 6 p.m.. The service will focus loosely on Charles Dickens’ “A Christmas Carol” — past, present, and future in song and verse. There will be refreshments afterwards.
•Dec. 25: Christmas Day Brunch at 10:30 a.m. There is a sign-up sheet on the social room table. Thank you to hostess Carol Bartz!
•Help needed for New Year’s Day celebration. Please contact Rev. Fred if you are interested in organizing or working on this event.
•Jan. 4, 2026: International piano virtuoso Eleonora Lvov presents “Romance on the Piano” at 4 p.m. Please join us for this popular annual music event; admission by donation.
ONGOING
•Helping children: Our fellowship is helping to make children feel merry and bright this holiday season. Purchase a Walmart or VISA gift card for our holiday collection for Afghan children, some of whom have been tutored by our members. A Christmas tree will have tags of the names and a suggested amount, $15-$25, depending on the child’s age. The tags will be hung on our tree. Cards may be dropped in a basket every Sunday. Deadline is Sunday, Dec. 21.
•Turning Points needs FOOD! Please donate ready-to-eat, non-perishable food, in easy to open containers. Pop top lids are perfect! Canned meats, (chili, prepared pasta, tuna, chicken, Spam) beans, fruits, vegetables. Peanut butter and crackers. Individual containers of fruits and applesauce and granola bars are great lunchbox fillers. Toothpaste, deodorant, feminine hygiene products. Baby diapers and baby food in pouches. Even dog food! Currently, they are not taking in clothes. Please add your items to the blue bin at the back of the sanctuary.
•Menstrual Supplies Drive: We are collecting these for Kim’s Krew clients. See wicker hamper near fireplace in Social Room. A sign lists what is needed. Gift cards and cash welcome; please deposit in little black container there. Thank you!
NOTE: All activities are in person at the Fellowship unless otherwise indicated.
Schedule updated as of Dec. 13, 2025.
SOCIAL EVENTS FIRST WEDNESDAY, THIRD FRIDAY OF EACH MONTH
Join us for our next ‘happy hour’ at Pier 22 (1200 1st Ave. W, Bradenton) on Wednesday, Dec. 3, at 4:30 p.m. Everyone is welcome to join this informal gathering featuring friendship, food, drink , and conversation. Go to pier22.com for directions and menu information. Our Pier 22 outing is held the first Wednesday of each month.
Our next Share a Dish potluck is Friday, Dec. 19, at 6 p.m., at our building. Bring a dish to share — like the name says! — and join us for food, fellowship and fun. Share a Dish is held on the third Friday of each month. Some months a special speaker or program is presented.
Please join us for these monthly social events — and more!

OUR TINY LIBRARY IS A SUCCESS!
In November 2024, we dedicated our Tiny Library. Since then, we have given away over 500 books focused on Diversity, Equality, Inclusion, and UU Values, as well as banned books. We also included books in other languages that are spoken in our neighborhood. In the political atmosphere we are living in, it’s a way we can stand up to the censorship and be a voice for the marginalized. Our Tiny Library has been embraced in other ways by our community. I often find books that have been placed in the cabinet. I remove them and review them for content and condition and usually put our bookplate and bookmark in them, catalog them, and put them back out to be circulated to the public.
The Warmington Freedom Tiny Library should be a source of pride for our community. It’s funded by a special account set up by the late Carl Warmington in honor of his wife Ruth. I belong to a Tiny Library Facebook group and I read complaints that no books are being taken, all the books being taken, and even vandalism. So far none of that has happened to us. Our cabinet has recently weathered 3 hurricanes thanks to the sturdy construction from our former custodian Bernie Salzinger and it has a motion sensor light inside installed by Denise Solomon our office assistant and custodian. It was decorated by Chris MacCormack who painted the books on the side. I’m excited about how successful our Tiny Library is.
Donations of books are welcome from the membership if you’d like to support the cause. Planned enhancements are; a bench next to it and a literature tube that we can put a brochure about our Fellowship in it for the public to take to learn about us. The Tiny Library is an outreach to the neighborhood, a symbol of our principles, and a way we can try to make a difference by spreading a message.
— Becky Smith
ABOUT THE PROGRESS PRIDE FLAG
The original pride flag was created in the 1970s by gay activist Gilbert Baker, friend of Harvey Milk, the first openly gay man to be elected to public office in California. Baker used eight colors and corresponding meanings: hot pink for sexuality, red for life, orange for healing, yellow for the sun, green for nature, turquoise for art, indigo for harmony, and violet for spirit.
The new Progress Pride Flag includes new colors and a new design that are meant to represent people of color, as well as people who are transgender, intersex, or nonbinary.
The colors black and brown were added to the Progress Pride Flag to represent unrepresented black and brown people.
With the rise of the Black Lives Matter movement, culture at large began to shift in a much-needed way towards acknowledging the vital roles that people of color have had in our society. The pride movement background is one of many areas where people of color did not receive the recognition they deserved historically. Adding colors to represent them on the flag is one way to change that.
The word “progress” in the new flag isn’t only about adding the new colors to it. It’s also because of the shape, which differs from the original design of horizontal stripes only. The Progress Pride Flag shows the white, pink, baby blue, black, and brown stripes in a triangle shape, with the old six-color rainbow stacked next to them.
The color placement and new shape was done intentionally to convey the separation in meaning and shift focus to how important the issues represented on the left are.
The placement of the new colors in an arrow shape is meant to convey the progress still needed.
— Mariano Vera
[As a Welcoming Congregation accredited by the Unitarian Universalist Association, Manatee UU Fellowship flies the Progress Pride Flag in front of our building each Sunday morning. It also appears on our permanent building sign.]


RENEWING OUR LEGACY CIRCLE
Anyone can join our Legacy Circle and make meaningful gifts to Manatee Unitarian Universalist Fellowship in their will. Regardless of the amount, your bequest is a statement of faith that our UU movement and our voices for compassionate justice, democracy, and religious freedom are heard long after we are gone. When you demonstrate that you care enough about this fellowship to support its future, others will follow your generous example.
No matter what your age, you can designate Manatee UU Fellowship as the beneficiary of all or a percentage of your IRA and it will pass to us tax-free after your lifetime. It’s simple, just requiring that you contact your IRA administrator for a change-of-beneficiary form or download a form from your provider’s website.
Join the Legacy Circle at our fellowship by stating your gift plan on your personal intentions form available in our office. Your name(s) will be placed on the Legacy Circle plaque in the sanctuary. Because most popular retirement plan administrators assume no obligation to notify charities of their client’s designations, the intentions form is an important document to us and will be held in a confidential file.
A GIFT FOR US ALL
For our 2021 auction, Peg Green offered to create a flaming chalice fabric wall hanging “to hang in your home or give as a gift.” The winner would get to choose the flaming chalice design and color scheme. and then Peg would create the piece.
During the live auction held in February 2021, Bill Hayes kept raising his bid and finally outbid everyone. Over that summer he generously gifted the lovely quilt to our fellowship. It is bold and beautiful, and can be seen in our Sanctuary on Zoom as well as in-person during our Sunday services.
Peg’s artwork can be viewed on her website www.peacepeg.com and one of her works is on the cover of the UUA Pocket Guide for new members.
Thank you, Peg and Bill, for being so generous!

Reverend Fred L Hammond
FRED’S FLAVORINGS
We are going to have a conversation on December 14th about the financial goals of our fellowship. It is an important conversation that goes way beyond the financial resources this fellowship depends on to move our mission and vision forward.
I recently came across a Vlog (video blog) from a therapist who, working with a very dysfunctional family, discussed the differences between three very similar words: Ownership, Responsibility, and Accountability. These words are often used interchangeably but they have very different nuances in meaning.
The therapist, in talking with the family, used an analogy of business. A staff member writes a report for their department. It is their task to ensure the accuracy of that report. But there are errors in the report when they hand it in. Their supervisor, who oversees the worker, passes this report on as is. Who is responsible and who is accountable? Who is the owner?
The staff was responsible for the information. Their supervisor is accountable to the report being signed off on as accurate. And the owner is the one who is going to receive the greatest harm to their business’s reputation. Who is going to be fired? The one who was accountable to ensure the report was correct because they oversaw their staff and they did not ensure its accuracy. The staff person might also lose their position depending on the severity of the damage caused.
We recently saw this play out in a gun possession trial where the child known to have behaviors that revealed not being mature enough to own a gun being given a gun as a present. The child was a minor. They were given responsibilities that were beyond their ability. Their parents were held accountable for the child’s shooting at the school because they knew the reports but chose to ignore the reports. The owners (society and school) were those who were damaged by the parents not being accountable to the laws to keep their minor child only responsible for things that were within their current capabilities. The owners must act to preserve the safety of the community.
The fellowship members of the Manatee Unitarian Universalist Fellowship have ownership of and are responsible and accountable to the mission of this community. Our success as a fellowship depends on our owning responsibility to further that mission. Our success also depends on our being accountable to that mission. This means that we compare our strategic plans to the furtherance of the mission and vision.
We can blame the fellowship for its failures but when we take ownership of the outcomes of the mission, then we are also responsible for the actions taken by the fellowship. We also are held accountable to the outcomes of the fellowship’s goals and mission. As soon as we understand that the actions of the one responsible contributed to our actions, then in that awareness we then become responsible to change our own behaviors. We can no longer place blame on the other for how or who we are today.
The development committee’s responsibility was to create a plan of action that will further our mission as a fellowship. That is the task the fellowship has given them. The board, in reviewing this plan and approving it, is being accountable to the mission of this fellowship. It is now the fellowship’s task to take ownership of the plan of action and implement it with the aid of the development committee and board.
Our success in achieving our goals — in this case the financial resources to sustain and strengthen our fellowship — requires our mutual taking of responsibility in being accountable to our mission.
Blessed Be…
I was asked to share a part of my sermon on compassion. Specifically, a meditation practice which may assist us in growing empathy and compassion for others, especially those who really get under our skin. NOT that any of us have that concern ourselves, this is for our friends who do, RIGHT?? (Smirking in self-recognition of my own gap in empathy and compassion.)
There are things that we can do to foster compassion in our own lives. If you have not read Karen Armstrong’s book “Twelve Steps to a Compassionate Life,” I highly recommend it. She offers a series of exercises to develop a sense of compassion not only for us but for others as well.
The Dalai Lama said, “If you want others to be happy, practice compassion. If you want to be happy, practice compassion.”(i)
The Dalai Lama suggests a morning ritual of reciting something along the lines of this: “Today I am fortunate to have woken up, I am alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it. I am going to use all my energies to develop myself, to expand my heart out to others, to achieve enlightenment for the benefit of all beings, I am going to have kind thoughts towards others, I am not going to get angry or think badly about others, I am going to benefit others as much as I can.”
Another exercise to consider is the commonalities held with another person. This is especially helpful in relationships where there may be frustration and disagreements. It goes something like this:
Step 1: “Just like me, [name of person] is seeking happiness in their life.”
Step 2: “Just like me, [name of person] is trying to avoid suffering in their life.”
Step 3: “Just like me, [name of person] has known sadness, loneliness and despair.”
Step 4: “Just like me, [name of person] is seeking to fill their needs.”
Step 5: “Just like me, [name of person] is learning about life.”(ii)
When doing this exercise, there may be a shifting thinking of the other person not as a barrier to your own path in life, but an opportunity to grow in compassion and empathy towards them. It may aid in softening the frustration or annoyance felt because the next time they say or do whatever, you might find yourself listening more deeply to what lies underneath the behavior.
When you are able to do this imagining easily, practice doing something every day to end the suffering of another person. It might be something small like a smile, or doing an errand for them, or a kind word, or listening to them. These all seem rather insignificant but haven’t we all experienced someone offering these very things to us and how it lifted our spirits even if for a brief moment.
We need more compassion and empathy in the world, not less. May we create the world we dream of living in.
Blessed Be.
(i) http://zenhabits.net/a-guide-to-cultivating-compassion-in-your-life-with-7-practices/
(ii) http://zenhabits.net/a-guide-to-cultivating-compassion-in-your-life-with-7-practices/
I have been struggling on what to write this month. Something inspiring? Something soothing? Something thought provoking?
In what has become cliche, we are living in dangerous times. Dickens stated it was the best of times; it was the worst of times. The best of times seems limited to only a select few at the top of the money pile. The rest of us are finding it increasingly hard to make ends meet. And the reasons why are increasingly aimed at scapegoats.
In all honesty, I am scared. I’m not scared so much for me. I am scared for you. And maybe that is my own masculine hubris that I will survive when in fact I am just as vulnerable as anyone else in my age bracket, sexual orientation, and medical condition. I am hoping that Social Security will still be here when I begin collecting. I am hoping — hopefully not a vain hope — that Medicare will continue well into the future. But nothing is certain today.
But these fears are nothing compared to what is happening to groups of people in our nation.
Because right now, others are having their rights taken away. They experience the new laws aimed at making their lives harder to simply live. Their energy is divided between trying to hold it together and keeping the bills paid. There are people who do not know if their family members will arrive home after following the law to attend a DHS immigration hearing. They do not know if their child will be used as bait to arrest them. Transgender individuals do not know if the bill proposed to institutionalize them will gather strength and get passed into federal law. [The naysayers will say that will never happen — they also said the current president would never be elected the first time, let alone a second time.]
As a religious community, we need to remain true to our faith’s values and principles. We cannot allow ourselves to justify our lack of action because to do so is a betrayal of our core principles. I recognize the temptation to lean into self-survival over the survival of others. Yet, we need to speak up for others. We need to say loud and clear that Transgender individuals are valued members of our community. We need to write letters. We need to march. We need to fly transgender flags. We need to be loud in our support. And should it come time for transgender and non-binary folks to seek asylum in another country — they will need our help to safely leave.
Same for our immigrants; undocumented and documented. We need to find voice for the love that is within our hearts — and speak, shout, sing out as loud as we can, for everyone’s freedom is at stake.
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PRESIDENT’S MESSAGE
The holidays are upon us. As I write this ‘message’ on a very cold (well, for Florida) Veterans Day, we’ve finished all that leftover Halloween candy and turned our clocks back. Store displays have switched their decor themes from ghosts to gobblers, with Santas, menorahs, and reindeer already starting to appear. Since childhood, it’s felt like the most special time of the year, with anticipation of great food, family and friends, great surprises, and great hopes for a new year.
As Unitarians, we don’t have a specific, shared religious context for holidays such as Thanksgiving, Hanukkah, Christmas, or Kwanzaa.
Thanksgiving becomes a time for gratitude not necessarily for divine blessings, but for each other. Hanukkah becomes less a celebration of divine deliverance and more a symbol of human endurance, patience, and strength in adversity. And Christmas becomes less about the birth of one of the most influential figures in human history and more about the renewal of the human spirit amidst the cold, dark silence of a wintry night.
What about Kwanzaa? As an African culture-based alternative to Western religious concepts, this celebration always seems to me the most UU of these end-of-year holidays, with its Seven Principles rooted in community and service: unity, self-determination, collective work and responsibility, cooperative economics, purpose, creativity, and faith. Concepts to ponder and words to live by.
Here at Manatee UU Fellowship, we acknowledge the December holidays in mostly traditional ways.
With our congregation family, we enjoy an annual Thanksgiving Day potluck meal — yes, with all the trimmings —that’s especially meaningful to those of us whose families may be far away or no longer living. [NOTE: Sadly, this year’s feast was canceled when the building had to be closed pending an urgent plumbing repair.]
Volunteers (I’m looking at you, Becky Smith and pals) put up holiday-themed decorations and lights during December that fill us with memories, hopefully good and nourishing ones, of holidays past. We have a meaningful Christmas Eve service that acknowledges and reaffirms the shared culture of many of our congregants without a whiff of, well, Christmas supremacy. And we have events on Christmas and New Year’s days when we gather for food, fellowship, and fun — just like families do all over.
While all this is going on, your Board of Directors is hard at work thinking well beyond this holiday month.
Right now, we are deep into planning for Auction 2026. Our annual auction has long been a favorite fellowship activity, and one we are delighted to continue. I am personally working to set up an online catalog and bidding system that we hope will not only make the bidding process easier but also give us the ability to reach beyond our membership walls and open our auction up to a larger community. Check the rest of this month’s Update (or elsewhere on our website) for more details on our exciting plans, including the addition of a traditional Yard Sale to kick things off, and how you can help with what has become our annual major fundraiser.
Stay tuned!
With love at the center,
Ted Medrek — board president
P.S. I can’t close on this Veterans Day without acknowledging our members, friends, and family members still with us or passed on, who bravely served and sacrificed to keep us safe and free. May we honor their efforts by continuing to fight, in our own ways, to preserve and extend the safety and freedoms they won.
As I sit down to write this month, I’m still thinking about two events I attended this past weekend.
On Saturday, Oct. 18, “No Kings” rallies took place around the country — even around the world. Three such rallies were held in Bradenton and Sarasota, where the total number of participants was counted in the thousands. And that number included members and friends of Manatee UU who joined in supporting democracy in the United States.
The gathering nearest to the fellowship, on Cortez Road West, was bigger than at any previous rally I’ve seen there, an estimated 1,000 strong. It was a beautiful thing to see so many step up with their time, energy — and express themselves with pointed signs and clever costumes — to extol the principles on which our country was founded.
The next day, after Rev. Fred L Hammond’s powerful (when are they not?) Sunday homily “Compassion: The New Dirty Word,” I went to Sarasota to see Dingbat Theatre Project’s production of “Heathers: The Musical,” a 2013 show based on the satirical high school-set 1989 film “Heathers,” starring Winona Ryder and Christian Slater. Our A/V Tech Assistant, Michael Luck, performed in the ensemble for this run, and also understudied the lead Slater role.
Dingbat Theatre, a small, can-do troupe with a mission to present theater by and for all (and for them all really does mean “all”), presented a show that seemed all too timely. The high school setting became the perfect backdrop for serious exploration of ruthless bullying, as privileged teens tormented anyone who was different from them. But the efforts of their tormentors backfired, as the bullied victims turned to shocking acts of retribution. This high school presents as an insular world out of control in which bad things happen a lot, to good and bad alike.
Believe it or not, it’s fundamentally a comedy, a highly entertaining one, and the plot resolves more or less amicably. But it’s comedy with a disquieting edge full of moral ambiguities, tackling such serious issues as homophobia, body shaming and much more, along the way. I haven’t been able to stop thinking about since.
Michael and all his onstage colleagues were nothing short of terrific — it’s been a while since I’ve seen such joyous communal energy on a stage — and under the expert direction of Luke Manual, the show managed to rapidly turn from exhilarating to shocking to deeply moving and around again several times over with ease. The casting celebrated the diversity to be found in any high school (or any group): diversity in body type — this was no chorus of lookalike clones — character, gender, and everything else. The heartbreak of the bullied folks was palpable, but the humanity of all was eventually revealed. Somehow these distinctly characterized individuals came together to create a small society that, while as dysfunctional and messy as many families, was ultimately a hopeful one.
During the show I kept thinking back to the rally from the day before, also a group of individuals as different from each other as people can be, but united in one big, beautiful defiance.
“Heathers” showed how dangerous actions by such bullies can have terrible consequences not only for their victims, but for the bullies themselves. It also showed a glimmer of possibility of finding common ground.
Unlike “Heathers,” “No Kings” did not have a come-together moment between opposing sides. But it demonstrated a coming together of individuals, with all their differences, united in seeking a way forward through collective resistance and unity. Better together indeed.
With love at the center until next month,
Ted Medrek — board president
P.S. “Heathers: The Musical” ends its run on Nov. 2. But you can go to dingbattheatre.org for information about the Dingbat Theatre Project and its upcoming productions.
During the Sept. 21 service, Rev. Fred read a book titled “The Invisible String” for his Time for All Ages. It is a moving story about the invisible connections that love generates, linking loving and beloved hearts in a bond that is never broken. One of the most important messages of the story was: No one is alone.
What could be more true of our fellowship?
Yes, there is an invisible string that connects each of us with Manatee UU, and through those connections we are linked together as well by our covenant and our shared faith in knowledge, in science, in justice, in reason, and in truth. And those connections ensure that none of us is alone.
After that service, Fellowship board member and Buildings & Grounds chair Glenn Derryberry gave a talk to the congregation about the state of the fellowship’s physical plant. Glenn’s talk was well-organized, comprehensive, and realistic, and it was gratifying to see so many stay after the service to hear him speak. Glenn explained not only recently completed projects, such as the new air conditioning unit purchased this summer, but also work that needs to be done in both the short-and long-term. Glenn also made clear how hard the board works to prioritize such needs — and how carefully it weighs the costs and benefits of every project. That’s how the board approaches everything it does.
Of course, our board meetings, currently on the fourth Wednesday of each month, are open to all members. But formal meetings can be, well, formal, and not very exciting to sit through for nonparticipants. But Glenn’s meeting on the 21st — and I hope this will be true of future such meetings on important fellowship topics — was thoroughly engaging, generating a sense of togetherness that was palpable. I could almost see those invisible strings tying each of us to the fellowship itself and to each other.
It was a beautiful thing.
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As I write this, the fellowship is getting ready to host Sunshine Music Camp, presented by Friends of Florida Folk. The two-day camp (“for musicians of all ages”) was set to finish off with a public concert, a fundraiser for the Florida Folk organization as well as Manatee UU. If you were able to attend on Sept 27 — I certainly plan to! — I’m confident you had a grand time. And we intend to keep such uplifting music events coming, on our own as well as in partnership with other groups. Stay tuned!
Finally, I hope you are considering participating in or donating to this year’s NAMI (National Alliance on Mental Illness) Walks event on Saturday, Oct. 4, at Payne Park in Sarasota, from 8 to 11 a.m. It’s a great way to support an important organization’s efforts. For questions and details, contact Michael Walker, organizer of our fellowship team.
With events like these, we extend our loving ‘invisible strings’ beyond our walls. Won’t you join us in that effort?
With love at the center,
Ted Medrek — board president
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